A Ricochet friend did a post about “saving our children” from the malign “transgender movement”. She mentioned the fact that today, many teenage girls don’t like being girls, and maybe that sentiment could explain the popularity of the “transgender” movement. [scare-quotes used to indicate the falsity of transgenderism] I took it a step further, and here are my thoughts on what could be behind this.
Why Many of Today’s Girls Don’t Want to be Girls.
I wonder if the problem is not that they don’t want to be girls, but that they aren’t keen on the feminist’s vision of what girls must be today. Perhaps they are not eager to be an engineer, or a carpenter, or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company.
Today’s society has nearly totally bought into the feminist version of females, who not only successfully compete with men in the job market, but are simply better than men in all areas of life. Girls are told that they must go to college, get a good job, and advance in their careers to become the head of something. Girls have it drummed into them from childhood that they can be anything they want to be, and if they don’t get there it’s men’s fault, or society’s fault. Girls are told, in school and subliminally in advertising, that getting married, having children, and raising them to be productive members of society is not making use of their best talents-that can only happen when they have a degree and a job on Main Street or Wall Street.
Maybe today’s girls actually want to have a boyfriend (or two), meet Mr. Right, get married, and be a full-time Mom. Maybe they see what society insists they must want, and turn away from that future. They are very conflicted when what they actually want for their lives is continually disparaged by the wider society. Today, they see that the government is doing all it can to get them out of their homes and into paid work, by offering paid family leave and free preschool and child care.
I have always thought that the version of feminism that denigrates men, idolizes women with high-level jobs, and values being a mother to a family much less than paid work, has had a negative effect on society. This level of feminism has led to disastrous consequences for many middle-class men, who see themselves as subservient to women, and devalued; which leads to “diseases of despair”, drug use, and increased suicide.
Today’s girls/women are also presented with two completely opposite views of women. First, they are told that they are “empowered” to do, and be, anything they desire in life. If they want to be an investment banker on Wall Street, they can be one. If they want to be a chemical engineer or and architect, they can go to college, get the degree, and get the well-paying job. On the other hand, they are told that they are the perpetual victims of the “patriarchy”, always looked down upon by men, and are potential rape victims. They are essentially told that they are both winners and victims at the same time. What girl wouldn’t have a hard time processing those contradictory messages?
Maybe Feminism itself is the cause of today’s girls not wanting to be girls.
[originally posted in a slightly different form on Ricochet.com]